Below are some general considerations for how to introduce a new significant relationship to your children.
This is not an exhaustive list and cannot cover all the possible variables that may be true about your life.
Children have many feelings about their parents’ divorce. For children, there is often a strong desire for a reconciliation between you and their other parent.
Your children may perceive a new person in your life as someone who could not only interrupt that reconciliation, but interfere with your time with your them as well.
Some may be resistant to anyone who appears to be taking the place of a parent.
However, in general, when someone is friendly, pays attention to them, and doesn’t try to be a disciplinarian, many children can form an attachment to a new partner as they spend more and more time with that person.
Talk with your children and arrange an event that is not focused solely on dialogue—for example, avoid having the first meeting be at a dinner.
Your children should have the room to go and do other things besides interact.
Children are able to understand that adults need time with other adults, just like they need time with other children.If your new partner will be in your life, there will be ample opportunity for more direct interactions.• Before telling your children, let your ex-partner know.• Give your children time to adjust to their new situation.Sometimes parents try to take care of their own feelings of loss by dating shortly after beginning to live apart, but this is one of those times when considering the needs of your children should be a priority.