We are all free to make up whatever dating preferences we want.
They are called personal preferences for a reason and we don’t need the approval of anyone else when it comes to what we like.
Save the games for the rest of the single people in the world who do not have the responsibility of looking out for the emotional well-being of themselves and their child. I’m always surprised at how few people discuss this topic upfront.
Some women with children do not want any more kids, and this is an awkward conversation to have after you have already exchanged “I love yous” or “I dos.” If you want one or two kids and she already has one or two kids, this is a conversation you should have sooner rather than later.
This Will - Single with No Children is useful if you are single and have no children and do not intend to have children.
Further, if you’re not a kid person or don’t want kids, you should not date a woman with kids to see if you’ll change your mind.
I have friends who have gotten upset because a woman they are dating has to drop everything for their child. A woman should not be placed in a position to choose between the child she loves and the man she likes.
If you don’t understand that, then you aren’t ready for this type of relationship and it is best if you do not bother wasting her time or yours. I’ve written on whether you need the baby’s father approval before — and for the record, no you do not.
This is not a video game that you can turn off when you decide you do not like how the game is playing out.
That is a personal decision you should figure out long before you involve a woman and her child in your life.