How does a ten year age gap affect our relationship?I think the answer depends on the stages of our relationship.As Jordan and I got to know each other better I realized how comfortable I was around him, he made me laugh, he never pressured of pushed me physically (in fact our first few dates I didn’t even realize were dates, oops) and I felt as if he understood me on a deeper level.As someone who always feels misunderstood and misrepresented that last part was huge.I was sick of guys who saw me as a blonde barbie kind of girl, and Jordan was just the opposite.He saw past everything superficial and seemingly appreciated my soul.Luckily he doesn’t feel compelled to start a family or else our age gap could be a deal breaker.
Just a week after my 23rd birthday we were invited skiing with our two friends who had just started dating, my friend broke her wrist, and Jordan and I spent a great deal of the day talking to one another.
It helps that I am “), but I’ve learned a few lessons that transcend my relationship and apply to anyone dating someone outside of the realm of “someone they could have known in high school” (that is plus or minus three years).
Common differences you’re likely to encounter when your Partner is five or more years older than you: While I’m debating whether or not I should pack lunch for work to save money instead of buying a sandwich at the grocery store deli, my boyfriend is eating out at “real” sit down restaurants each day.
I didn’t know how to pay my bills on time, or clean an oven and my bedspread was from the children’s section of Target.
Though I’d always thought of myself as mentally and emotionally mature I still saw 30 as “grown-up” and on the inside I felt too similar to a lost little girl.