“What in society makes them think that it's okay to message someone like that? There’s Straight White Boys Texting, which is exactly what it sounds like: (“You should come eat this dick for desert.” [sic]) Minority women seem to have it especially rough; there are a number of sites devoted to exposing the uniquely disgusting bile that seems to spew forth when certain white men attempt to woo Asian women. In the words of Elizabeth Bennet, "You are too hasty, sir."* * *Online dating is just like regular dating—if it had been sprinkled with radioactive dust and left out in the sun to get bigger, louder, and warped.Or, for more run-of-the-mill indignities, check out Dudes of Tinder, a Tumblr collecting a combination of outlandish profile photos and gross messages (“Wanna meet up for some chicken? Traditional courting norms, in which men usually do the asking and women usually do the selecting, are escalated online.
Eventually we exchanged numbers and he started texting incessantly.Tweten posted an aggressive note she had recently received from a man who had sent her the same Ok Cupid line three times in the course of a month, asking her if she’d like to chat.After ignoring it repeatedly, Tweten finally wrote back, “No.”His response: “WHY THE FUCK NOT? “If we don't respond, they come back and say, ‘you're a whore.’ If we do respond, we get yelled at and called names.She’s had mostly good experiences with online dating, and she met her last serious boyfriend on Ok Cupid.Still, the crude, unsolicited messages are a kind of a bitter aftertaste to what is usually a fun, if sometimes fatiguing, process. You can see the desperation.”Tweten is part of an growing contingent of women who are dedicated to exposing the shady, hostile, and crass entreaties they get from their digital suitors.