And I don't think it's their fault, but I did see that there were more people than I realized who felt that way. About a week after I got off Tinder, I reconnected with a guy I met a year ago at a restaurant who I was immediately drawn to at the time, and we later ended up going on a fantastic date and now we're kind of seeing where it goes.
It seems to come down to this: do what makes you feel comfortable. Have a sense of humor “In my profile I had a joking disclaimer that I’m in a wheelchair.
" And I wanted to say, "Of course I can, asshole." I seriously can't tell you how many Tinder guys asked me that as soon as I mentioned the wheelchair. " I seriously had to tell him, "I don't think it's going to be changing anytime soon." He just vanished and I was really bummed about it.
After that, a guy I was sexting with on Tinder for a few weeks replied to me casually telling him that I was in a wheelchair with, "Oh. All of that rejection based on being in a wheelchair really messes with your self-confidence.
I thought my experiences with Tinder dating in different cities would be different, but weirdly, I found it was totally the same in all three cities.
When I first set up my Tinder profile, I wasn't sure if I should make my disability super obvious in my photos.