For example, Alex, 27, told me that there was "no way dating a guy more than 10 years older than me would work. I want a boyfriend who's my age so we can go through similar stages together.
I don't want a guy who's already 'been there, done that' when I haven't." But Ian, 25, felt the opposite.
Before making a decision, I hope you two will approach these issues specific to dating when there's a significant age gap: He's expressed concern about your financial disparity.
I hope I am as energetic and together as he is when I am his age.Depending on what phase of your life you currently find yourself in (college, your first job, or divorced in your 40s), it can be hard to get to a deeper level with someone who’s just not in the same place.If you’re still frequenting the local campus pub every weekend and your boyfriend is 30 and thinking about marriage, chances are the relationship is doomed, unless one of you is willing to make serious sacrifices.Others find the economic disparity troubling, especially when it leads to power imbalances.If you're in a relationship for the long haul, remember that financial situations change, too, depending on career ambitions and choices. Write down your shared and non-shared interests and prioritize the most important ones. For example, if you like the nightlife and he likes the sofa, can you work out a reasonable compromise?